Valerie Bertinelli is learning to ignore her inner critic. .

Her journey to self-acceptance inspired her new book "Enough Already: Learning to Love the Way I Am Today" (available now).

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Bertinelli writes of the "instantaneous and mutual" attraction the two experienced upon meeting backstage at a Van Halen concert and the enduring love they shared, even after they separated in 2001 after 20 years of marriage?

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She refers to him in the book as a "soulmate," but he isn't her only one. "I think we meet up with with souls that we're meant to work through things together," she says, explaining that she believes part of the pair's purpose was to bring into the world their only child, musician Wolfgang Van Halen (aka Wolfie), 30.

"I can't make people understand this, because it's so personal, but I've never felt love like that," she says.

She says even that powerful four-letter word doesn't suffice: "Love isn't a big enough word for the feeling that Ed felt for me, and that I felt for him."