Dating when you're 40 or older can be intimidating — unlike when you're in your 20s or 30s, you can't assume everyone your age is single and looking.

It's a comfort in knowing that the people you find on dating apps are single (hopefully) and looking for a romantic relationship, so at least you're both on the same page.

Dating apps have been around for multiple decades, which means they are the norm and don't have to be a last resort.

Below you'll find which dating apps we love for people over 40 and which ones you should steer clear of.

You'll also want to be direct with what you're looking for?

They went on a few dates and she really liked him, but he was interested in dating a lot of women at the same time, and though Frazier really liked him, she realized that kind of a relationship wasn't for her.

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While Frazier says the stigma around dating sites with the over 40 crowd is mostly gone, she doesn't think a lot of single men in her area are using these sites, so she's experiencing fewer options.

She also thinks location plays a big part in how successful dating apps will be for a person, which we agree with.

Like every other age range, people over 40 are looking for all types of relationships.

According to a desirability survey conducted by eharmony, 70 percent of people are looking for a serious relationship as opposed to a casual one.

Do dating apps really work.

While Frazier hasn't had the most success with dating apps, she does know a lot of people who have —her sister-in-law met her boyfriend on Tinder.

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Which dating site is best for singles over 40.

The best dating site varies depending on what you're looking for.

eharmony also specializes in serious relationships, but the site is really for people who want to marry their next partner, so it's taking serious to the highest level.

While you would hope everyone on dating apps is single, you can't just assume.

There really is a dating site for everybody; it just might take some time to find the one that strikes gold for you.

Most dating sites and apps have free versions, so you can test them out without fully committing.

Though memberships are on the pricier side, you're more likely to find someone who's serious about dating.

Free version:.

Three months standard plan:.

Six months standard plan:.

Match is one of the most popular dating sites out there — and for good reason.

With 25 years to perfect the process, Match is responsible for successful relationships in 24 countries and also got the top spot on our list of best dating sites for finding a serious relationship.

You can expect that people on the site are going to be pretty serious about finding a partner considering Match subscriptions start at $26.65 per month.

Your profile can have up to 26 photos and you're able to select preferences for the type of person you're looking for.

If you don't find someone within six months, Match will give you six months for free.

Free version:.

With more than 20 years in the game, eharmony is a solid starting place for people over 40 who are looking for a committed relationship.

Unfortunately, you can only choose one gender you're interested in, so there's still some room for improvement on the inclusivity front.

The free version of eharmony lets you receive and view matches, see compatibility details, and send smiles and icebreakers and favorite your matches.

Free version:.

It connects you with people who have similar values and interests as you to help find someone you're truly compatible with.

OkCupid is definitely more of a liberal leaning dating app, so you might not find what you're looking for if you identify as conservative.

Shows who liked you • Follows up about dates to give you better recommendations • People on the app are looking for more than a hookup.

If you're sick of hookup apps but aren't looking for something as serious as eharmony, Hinge is a happy medium.

Free version:.

With the free version you can send 10 likes per day.

Not for everyone over 40 • Free membership is basically worthless • Premium memberships are pricey • Only three to seven matches per day • Not good for bi people.

Free version:

SilverSingles is a dating site exclusively for people 50 years or older, but don't get turned off by it's name

You're able to select that you're looking for a same-sex match, but if you're interested in both men and women, you can't choose to get matches from both genders

Free version:

Three months paid:

There's a mutual understanding that if you're on EliteSingles, you're a working or retired professional looking to meet other professionals with similar interests

EliteSingles has a few different ways to find potential matches to make sure you're truly able to find someone you'll click with

This is one of the pricier dating sites out there, but on the bright side, you can bet that the people who are paying for the service are pretty damn serious about finding a relationship

Not just for hookups (but also good if you're looking for a hookup) • Large user base • Easy to use

Free version:

But when I asked my Facebook friends about their favorite apps for dating in your 40s+, I had multiple people tell me they or their family members had success with Tinder and enjoyed using it

If you and another user both swipe right on each other, it's a match and you're free to message each other

That said, it's definitely still possible to find people who aren't just looking to hook up

But it's also pretty easy to find someone who is looking to hook up if that's what you're looking for

Free version:

You upload photos and write a bio, see profiles of potential matches in your area, and swipe right if you're interested and left if you're not

Avoid these dating apps

Not every dating site or app is a winner

Search function shows you members you've already contacted • Can't read messages without paying for membership • You will probably have to sift through some fake or spammy profiles • Free version is essentially useless

Free version:

For example, if you message someone you're interested in, the site will use that information to show you similar types of profiles moving forward

You're able to discover matches based on compatibility or use filters to seek out specific characteristics in people

While there is a free version of the service, it's basically useless

All you're able to do is see members' pictures, send winks and hearts (think FaceBook pokes), and see the carousel to discover new people

If you message someone who doesn't have a paid subscription, they won't be able to message you back without paying

We are not joking when we say the free version is useless

Pretty comprehensive free version

Plenty of Fish boasts that its features are free, but that doesn't make up for the lack of quality and screening on the site

While Plenty of Fish has some good features in the free version, the site is full of scammers and fake profiles

Free version:

Six months paid:

12 months paid:

If we're being honest, there are *a lot* of dating sites that are mostly scams, and Plenty of Fish seems like it could be one of them

If you don't mind sifting through the crap to find someone good (and real), you might want to give POF a chance, but it's certainly not a site we would recommend to our friends

The site does use compatibility algorithms and suggests matches to you, including "ultra matches," which are the top 50 members who are most compatible with you

If you want to see what's up with POF for yourself, signup is free, and you're actually able to message people without paying

Worst "over 50" site

Free version:

With the free version you're only able to send likes

One nice thing is that you're able to select that you're looking for a same-sex relationship